I wrote a post on How to Better Get Along With Others, but power struggles well thats a whole other can of sardines. What are power struggles?  It's when people try and drain others of their energy, so that they can feel better. It's a drama.  James Redfield, the Author of The Celestine Prophecy, explains in his book that ALL people have something called a control drama. This control drama is a TACTIC people use to take other peoples energy away from them. People take energy from others when they feel drained and it is an unconscious attempt to try and get that energy back somehow. James says there are four types of control dramas.

1.) The Aloof control drama: A person with this control drama attempts to take your energy by acting as if they do not even notice you, they are hard to reach, vague, and answer questions in monosyllables. They basically ignore you, and make you feel that you are insignificant, they carry an air of indifference.

2.) Poor ME's Poors me's try and take your energy by playing the victim. They want you to feel sorry for them, by sucking you into their vicitm life full of stories about how they have been wronged.

3.) Interrogators: Interrogators do just that... interrogate you. Not all interrogators act like the BAD COP, but rather needle you with incessant questions, that never end,  you answer one question and they fire another one at you, always keeping the energy flowing their way.

4.) Intimidators: They try and make you feel afraid of them. Do as I say ,or else, is their motto. As long as you feel fear they can take your energy. If you feel fearful, then you are in the presence of an intimidator.



Control dramas have matches, for example, the interrogator and aloof are a matching control drama. The interrogator needles and the aloof ignores. It's a struggle and competition for energy until someone loses.

Intimidators attract Poor me's. Poor me's feel like a victim and intimidators love to make people feel vicitmized, poor me's try and get the energy back by using guilt and blame on the intimidator.

Random question:

1.) Which control drama do you think our government uses?
2.) Which control dramas are playing out in the picture below?

Answers at end of post

James Redfield explains that the intimidators are the most spiritually lost, and cut of from love, because they live with the most fear. Yes, intimidators feel tremendous fear themselves so they try and impose it onto others. He explains we are not supposed to be draining each other of energy, but rather to be generating our own energy by connecting to our spirit as the ultimate source.

How to Heal Control Dramas

1.) First we have to recognize which ones we are using on others
2.) Be aware of the dramas others are using on us

For example: if we are an aloof then we know that ignoring an interrogator causes more drama. So we have to be conscious when we meet an interrogator.

How to Deal With Each Drama

This is what I have found to be helpful

Intimidators: James Redfield says to ask them out loud. are you trying to make me feel afraid of you? I have noticed all these people will do is say NO, deny it, and get all the more intimidating. The best way to get them off your back is by healing your own fear, then they have no power over you.

If you have a great deal of fear, heed my warning, do not provoke them, because they will come after you. Only attempt to throw them off when you have gained sufficient inner power yourself. Until then just stay out of their way.

Interrogators: They get their energy from you when you answer all their questions or get defensive, so here's the trick, answer the first two questions then change the subject. But do it like it's no big deal, like you are naturally changing the subject. This has worked for me a hundred percent of the time. What annoys them is you ignoring them, being ALOOF, and will egg them on all the more. If you are their friends just say I am not answering any more of your questions. But if we say that to customers it's considered rude.

Aloof: They are easy to deal with just allow them to ignore you, let them be. What aloof people want is your attention, they want you to try and open them up. If you ask them a question and you get a vague answer like they are being secretive, then stop asking them questions and leave them be. Don't get angry because you are draining yourself but to realize it's an energy grab on their part.

Poor Me: Easy to deal with just walk away when they try and get you involved in their victimhood. They use guilt a lot, and blame, be aware of it and feel ok to walk away.

The answer to the random questions
1.) Our government uses Intimidation as a control drama.
2.) The woman in the picture is an aloof, and the man is an interrogator.

Lindsay Tietz, BSc, HD
Owner Intention to Heal
Homeopathic Medicine Practitioner and Holistic Nutrition Expert
Proudly Serving The Toronto Danforth Area Directly 

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